Posted on March 26, by grhgraph In my six decades of life, I have witnessed an astonishing regression in mass media. We had a TV but only three channels and reception was spotty at best. We willingly performed artistic movements with our rabbit ears antenna in order to achieve maximum clarity.
PDF version of this Section Searching for what is most important. This workbook proposes seven ways to guide your conversations in directions that are more satisfying for both you and your conversation partners. I have selected these suggestions from the work of a wide range of communication teachers, therapists and researchers in many fields.
While these seven skills are not all a person needs to know about talking, listening and resolving conflicts, I believe they are a large and worthwhile chunk of it, and a great place to begin. To cite just one example of many, in the early s communication coach Kare Anderson wrote a delightful book  about negotiation that included one hundred specific ways to get more of what you want.
The problem is that no one I know can carry on a conversation and juggle one hundred pieces of advice in his or her mind at the same time.
So lurking behind all that good advice is the issue of priorities: What is most important to focus on? This workbook is my effort to answer those questions. My goal is to summarize what many agree are the most important principles of good interpersonal communication, and to describe these principles in ways that make them easier to remember, easier to adopt and easier to weave together.
Much of the information in this workbook has been known for decades, but that does not mean that everyone has been able to benefit from it.
This workbook is my contribution toward closing that gap. How we benefit from learning and using a more cooperative style.
I have selected for this workbook the seven most powerful, rewarding and challenging steps I have discovered in my own struggle to connect with people and heal the divisions in my family. None of this came naturally to me, as I come from a family that includes people who did not talk to one another for decades at a time.
The effort is bringing me some of each of the good results listed below and I am still learning. These are the kinds of benefits that are waiting to be awakened by the magic wand… of your study and practice.
Get more done, have more funwhich could also be stated as better coordination of your life activities with the life activities of the people who are important to you.
Living and working with others are communication-intensive activities. The better we understand what other people are feeling and wanting, and the more clearly others understand our goals and feelings, the easier it will be to make sure that everyone is pulling in the same direction.
Since there is a lot of mutual imitation in everyday communication I raise my voice, you raise your voice, etc. Because each person has different talents, there is much to be gained by people working together, and accomplishing together what none could do alone.
But because each person also has different needs and views, there will always be some conflict in living and working with others. By understanding more of what goes on in conversations, we can become better team problem solvers and conflict navigators.
More peace of mind. Because every action we take toward others reverberates for months or years inside our own minds and bodies, adopting a more peaceful and creative attitude in our interaction with others can be a significant way of lowering our own stress levels.
Even in unpleasant situations, we can feel good about our own skillful responses. More satisfying closeness with others. Learning to communicate better will get us involved with exploring two big questions: Exercises in listening can help us listen more carefully and reassure our conversation partners that we really do understand what they are going through.
Exercises in self-expression can help us ask for what we want more clearly and calmly. In his book, Love and Survival Dr. Dean Ornish cites study after study that point to supportive relationships as a key factor in helping people survive life-threatening illnesses.
To the degree that we use cooperative communication skills to both give and receive more emotional support, we will greatly enhance our chances of living longer and healthier lives.
Respecting the mountain we are about to climb together: I hope putting these suggestions into practice will surprise you with delightful and heartfelt conversations you never imagined were possible, just as I was surprised.
And at the same time, I do not want to imply that learning new communication skills is easy. Out of respect for you, I feel the need to tell you that making big, positive changes in the way you communicate with others will probably be one of the most satisfying and most difficult tasks you will ever take on, akin to climbing Mt.
If I misled you into assuming these changes were easy to make, you would be vulnerable to becoming discouraged by the first steep slope."If you've read the Dot Earth blog a lot, you know I'm a fan of the ultimate science-as-story coach, Randy Olson, who left a tenured job teaching marine biology to make provocative films on science controversies and then write, and write, and write about connecting science to society through storytelling.
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Along with the rapid increase of technological innovations, people are more and more connected in the globalized world of today. Mar 26, · “The more we elaborate our means of communication, the less we communicate.” (J.B. Priestly) Posted on March 26, by grhgraph In my six decades of life, I have witnessed an astonishing regression in mass media.
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